The Faces We Manufacture
Man can never be an island. We are bound to move with people and develop relationships with everyone who crosses our life. Some are merely functional while a few grew into intimate relationships that last for a life time. All our bonds with fellow human beings differ widely from one another.
These relationships when viewed under the self interrogation microscope obviously show one fundamental fact. We don’t maintain relationships with people. Instead all our bonds are with faces; the faces those we manufacture in our mental workshop. Every person we meet in our life sooner or later is replaced with such a face we exclusively manufacture for them.
Always the essential ingredient for this manufacturing process, which aims at replacing a person with a face, is designed with few meetings that we have with that individual and the mental imagery we develop on them, purely based on opinions and personal perceptions of those moments. Many of us never question the credentials of these perceptions nor the validity of the opinions generated. The data thus gathered is directly fed in to the mind machine and a ‘face’ is generated.
Once the face generation is over all one relates is with the face and not the person anymore. All our judgments, over their actions and reactions are purely based on the traits assigned to their ‘faces’. This leads to the stamping few faces as ‘good’ and the rest ‘bad’. In most cases reassessment of the face those bearing the ‘bad’ stamp are dismissed or felt unnecessary. Therefore our interactions with these ‘bad faces’ always happen with preconceived notions strongly dictated by prejudices. A second thought or consideration is never given.
On the contrary our reactions to the ‘good faces’ are almost reciprocal. We often tend to overlook or ignore even the grave mistakes or irreparable blunders they commit in their lives. We always develop might-be scenarios to justify the actions and intentions of those faces in our good books. One doesn’t even bother in backing them up even after knowing evidently the mistake is on their side.
Most of the frictions that arise in the functional relationships are mainly due to this face molds that we create. And they are lethal in case of personal relationships. How a static mold could generated in our mind to represent a person whose character, mindset, and behavior are so dynamic? As people, no one is eternally good or bad. Human life is a mixed bag of good and bad. While we are able to justify our mistakes at times, we dare not to buy the justifications of others for their deeds.
Give everyone a chance to change and that is possible when you prepare yourself to interact with ‘real people’- full of life- and not with faces you have manufactured.